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Dove, Love Your Hair

Dove Love Your HairThere are so many life lessons and life experiences I cannot wait to teach and share with my daughter as she grows older, for now the little things I can teach her is my love for music, my love for her and for others around us, to love herself and believe she is smart, brave, strong, and beautiful inside out.

Shirel is 2 years old and this age is so precious, people would always tell me and now I understand exactly what they meant. She is more opinionated, and can finally voice them, everything from what she wants to eat, to what she wants to wear, and even how she wants to wear her hair, usually she asks me to braid it like Elsa (yes she is obsessed with Frozen already). I remember when she was born the first few days were so overwhelming in so many ways as you other mothers know, and those of you who aren’t yet you can only imagine! I would hold her and stare at her in disbelief that I just gave birth to this little beautiful baby girl, but at the same time she looked nothing like me, she looked Asian like my husband, and as much as you prepare yourself and know that she will be a mixed child it still takes time to take it in when you are actually holding her and staring at her. Dove Love Your HairBut that only lasted a few days, and then I realized I now am a mother and the love I feel for her is so powerful that nothing else matters, especially not the comments you hear from people which at first are shocking and offensive, but then you realise they don’t matter because you will teach her that she is special and beautiful. The comments I have gotten from strangers, and close people as well are “such a shame she doesn’t have your eyes”, or “such a shame she doesn’t have your blonde thick hair!” That to me is enough for a little girl to hear and start to believe that she isn’t beautiful enough, because she doesn’t look like what everyone else believes beautiful is! Beautiful is not just one type or one kind, and I refuse to let that affect my daughter and how she perceives herself when she starts to grow up.

I will teach her that her eyes are beautiful and unique, her skin is beautiful and her hair is so beautiful, that she is a beautiful person because of how she treats others, because she is smart and capable, with a kind heart! That her heritage is something to be proud of, she is half Chinese and half Georgian a truly unique and beautiful mix that shows in her personality and in her unique features. Dove Love Your Hair haya-0338 haya-0339

That is why I love our “hair moment” every morning after I get her dressed, and I sit her down in front of the mirror to do her hair, and she acts silly making funny faces to make me laugh, or she tells me that today she would like her hair in a braid like Elsa, it is such a sweet moment that I do not take for granted and it takes me back to my childhood and how much I loved when my mother did my hair! Hair is such an important element in my culture, it shows not only beauty but your heritage and your roots, I have (blonde) thick wavy hair such as my father, and Shirel has silky dark hair just like her father, and I cannot wait until she grows up and starts to do her hair and asks for my advice. Her hair will be another way of her to be proud of who she is and her heritage, and I will be right there next to her teaching her to love it and treat it with kindness and love, just as she should treat herself and others.

There is a narrow depiction of what “beautiful hair” is traditionally thought to look like and earlier this year Dove Hair found that 8 in 10 women feel pressure to wear their hair a certain way. For many these pressures began at an early age! Dove Hair believes a positive role model can greatly impact a girl’s confidence. In fact a recent Dove study, found that 82% of girls learn to care about themselves from their mother. As a mother you can make a difference and help ensure she grows up feeling confident. Celebrate the beauty of your daughter’s hair today, so she loves her hair tomorrow. Tell her why you love her hair and inspire her to do the same by sharing your #LoveYourHair selfie and tagging @Dove. To add some extra love visit LoveYourHair.Dove.com, to create your own custom animated message and share with your friends and family!Dove, Love Your Hair

 

 

Denim jacket and black dress

Mother and DaughterZadig & Voltaire

Wearing total look by Zadig & Voltaire, dress and denim jacket, Converse, Shirel is wearing Target kids, and Children’s Place sandals. I hope you enjoy this look by Zadig & Voltaire, you can get it at their City Center DC boutique. 

Photography by Maleknaz 

The title of this post is all about my look, which is one of my favorite easy casual and feminine look to pull together, but for many reasons once I started writing this post I couldn’t help but think about Shirel, and all the love we have for her, so it turned out to be all about her:) Hope you enjoy it!

There is one phrase that as much as it sounds like a cliché I just cannot stop myself from saying it or thinking it! TIME FLIES! It truly does, it feels just like yesterday when we were in DC shooting this in the Shaw area and getting to know the neighbourhood, and now suddenly we are in Barcelona. Another thing that always amazes me it doesn’t matter how often I fly and how I have been a traveler since I was a little girl, non of it stops phasing me how I can be in one continent and within a few hours land in another one. It is quite amazing, and we are so lucky, and I feel so lucky that my husband signed up with me to live this life of traveling back and forth until Shirel is a little older and starts school. Some might call us crazy, but we love it, at times it gets hard but nothing worth it comes easy, and for us this is worth it, and a privilege that we get to share time with these two beautiful cities, with our families and friends on both continents. Come to think of it I have always wanted to live like this, maybe it’s my Gemini in me, or maybe it’s the nomad in me, I am used to moving around since I am 4 years old so after a while I tend to get anxious in one place, because I feel like there is so much to see and discover around the world. So yes even as a mother I tend to pick a different way, maybe not the mainstream but also not that strange or crazy, because guess what I am not that special and there are plenty of other families and people doing just the same or even more. Zadig & VoltaireGGGZadig & VoltaireWhich brings me back to how time flies, next week Shirel will turn 2 years old, and Jeff will turn 35 WOW I can’t believe it so much to celebrate. I met Jeff when he was about to turn 23 just a few days away from his birthday, I had just turned 21, we were so young and little did we know where life would take us together, and that October would be such a special month for us. Shirel turns 2, my baby is growing so fast, and I can barely keep up with her, she is so feisty and funny, with a stubborness to her that is exactly the right mix of her dad and me (we are quite stubborn the two of us), she is starting to boss around boys in her class (love that, I was NOT at all like her, and I love that she is like this), she still loves to dance and sing more than anything, she is convinced that the whole Mickey Mouse Clubhouse is her clique, she speaks three different languages within one sentence, she loves carbs, cheese and avocado (my favorite foods when I was pregnant and always), she loves dogs but is terrified to get near them, and she is sweet to everyone she meets, she gives the best hugs and she gives so much love! Shirel is everything I have ever dreamed of and more, I could not have asked for a more precious babygirl and I cannot wait to celebrate her for the rest of our lives! She is our Love, she is that pure love of two young 20 something year olds that met in Barcelona years ago, not looking for love but who happened to stumble upon it, she is the manisfestation of what was thought to be a love that would never happen, a relationship that was doomed from the beginning because of our very different cultures, despite all the hardships we grew stronger we got even closer with every struggle our love grew stronger until one day Shirel graced us with her love, and for her we have walked hand in hand these years to embrace her and to have her in our lives! Words can’t be said as to what she means to us, and we can’t wait to celebrate her birthday next week!Zadig & VoltaireShirelGGGGGGGGGGGG`